WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #92 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
MAINTAINING QUALITY MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIPS
AFTER THE MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP PURGE
STEP 2
Are you fortunate enough to have at least one quality friendship remaining
after the double milestone friendship purge?
Congratulations.
Will this always be a quality friendship?
Hopefully - yes.
Possibly - no.
Are there ways to increase the possibility of keeping this friendship - of course.
Step 2
~ Maintenance ~
Quality friendships require maintenance.
Sprinkle your friendships with copious amounts of love, attention, kindness, and
respect.
If it is truly a quality friendship, it will flourish.
REMINDER
Step 1 is in previous post.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Reciprocity plays a role in maintenance. Both friends must tend to the friendship.
UNHOMEWORK
What is your reaction to Step 2?
Do you regularly maintain your quality friendships? In what ways?
Are your friends reciprocating?
Is it more of an effort to maintain quality friendships during the double milestone? (Trick question)
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
One more step ...
HELPFUL HINTS
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Keep scrolling to read any, or all, earlier Midlife Memos, especially
'The Birth of Swamp Goddess.' I bet you will relate.
Wednesday, March 27, 2013
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
AFTER THE MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP PURGE - NOW WHAT?
WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #91 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
AFTER THE MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP PURGE - NOW WHAT?
During the double milestone, we lose friendships.
We dump some; others dump us - aka the purge.
Wicked, but true.
AFTER THE PURGE
Take a look around.
Is anyone left standing?
Are there at least one or two quality friendships remaining? Yay! Give a loud cheer.
Do you have more than two quality friendships? Double Yay! Lucky you.
If not one friend remains - Sigh! (Stay tuned for tips to create quality friendships.)
NOW WHAT DO WE DO?
Actually, there are several steps.
Let's begin with the first.
~ Gratitude ~
To friends - tell them you're grateful they are in your life, and why.
To yourself - appreciate the gift of quality friendships.
REMINDER
One quality friendhip is soooo much better than ten non-quality friendships.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Appreciation and gratitude go hand-in-hand.
UNHOMEWORK
Are you finished with the purge of negative friendships?
How many quality friendships remain?
You know this already, but in case your aging memory needs a reminder -
sing, shout, or chant the following: 'quality is more important than quantity!'
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
the next step after the double milestone friendship purge ...
HELPFUL HINTS
Midlife Memos is published weekly.
If you click on 'followers' or 'subscribe,' you will automatically receive each new one.
Or
Just come back to www.midlifememos.com
NOTE
CONTACT INFORMATION
Email: www.drwendykyman@gmail.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/drwendykyman@gmail.com
Twitter: www.twitter.com/@drwendykyman
TO READ PREVIOUS POSTS
To the right, under BLOG ARCHIVES, click '2010' '2011' '2012.'
Keep scrolling all the way to read any, or all, the earlier Midlife Memos, especially
'The Birth of Swamp Goddess.' I bet you will relate.
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #91 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
AFTER THE MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP PURGE - NOW WHAT?
During the double milestone, we lose friendships.
We dump some; others dump us - aka the purge.
Wicked, but true.
AFTER THE PURGE
Take a look around.
Is anyone left standing?
Are there at least one or two quality friendships remaining? Yay! Give a loud cheer.
Do you have more than two quality friendships? Double Yay! Lucky you.
If not one friend remains - Sigh! (Stay tuned for tips to create quality friendships.)
NOW WHAT DO WE DO?
Actually, there are several steps.
Let's begin with the first.
~ Gratitude ~
To friends - tell them you're grateful they are in your life, and why.
To yourself - appreciate the gift of quality friendships.
REMINDER
One quality friendhip is soooo much better than ten non-quality friendships.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Appreciation and gratitude go hand-in-hand.
UNHOMEWORK
Are you finished with the purge of negative friendships?
How many quality friendships remain?
You know this already, but in case your aging memory needs a reminder -
sing, shout, or chant the following: 'quality is more important than quantity!'
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
the next step after the double milestone friendship purge ...
HELPFUL HINTS
Midlife Memos is published weekly.
If you click on 'followers' or 'subscribe,' you will automatically receive each new one.
Or
Just come back to www.midlifememos.com
NOTE
CONTACT INFORMATION
Email: www.drwendykyman@gmail.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/drwendykyman@gmail.com
Twitter: www.twitter.com/@drwendykyman
TO READ PREVIOUS POSTS
To the right, under BLOG ARCHIVES, click '2010' '2011' '2012.'
Keep scrolling all the way to read any, or all, the earlier Midlife Memos, especially
'The Birth of Swamp Goddess.' I bet you will relate.
Wednesday, March 13, 2013
A MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP SCENARIO
WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #90 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
A MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP SCENARIO
Have you heard a version of this midlife friendship scenario?
Actually, I bet you have heard countless versions.
Two women have been friends for decades.
~ One is extremely needy.
She relies on her friend to be available all day, everyday.
~ The other is generous with her time and energy.
She does her best to be available for her friend.
Both women reach the double milestone.
As each enters menopausal mayhem and aging angst, the friendship
dynamic changes.
The needy friend - you guessed it - gets more needy.
She asks for more and more.
And ... the giving friend - limits her availability.
Eventually she exclaims, 'no more.'
Uh-oh!!!
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
This is just one example of the friendship changes that
occur during the double milestone.
UNHOMEWORK
Do you have a friendship similar to the one described?
Which of the two friends most resembles you?
How has the friendship dynamic changed since the onset of the double milestone?
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
Midlife friendships should include ...
HELPFUL HINTS
Midlife Memos is posted weekly.
If you click on 'followers' or 'subscribe,' you will automatically receive each new one.
Or
Just come back to www.midlifememos.com
NOTE
CONTACT INFORMATION
Email: www.drwendykyman@gmail.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/drwendykyman
Twitter: www.twitter.com/@drwendykyman
TO READ PREVIOUS POSTS
To the right, under BLOG ARCHIVES, click '2010' '2011' '2012.'
Keep scrolling all the way to read any, or all, of the earlier Midlife Memos,
especially 'The Birth of Swamp Goddess.' I bet you will relate
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #90 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
A MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP SCENARIO
Have you heard a version of this midlife friendship scenario?
Actually, I bet you have heard countless versions.
Two women have been friends for decades.
~ One is extremely needy.
She relies on her friend to be available all day, everyday.
~ The other is generous with her time and energy.
She does her best to be available for her friend.
Both women reach the double milestone.
As each enters menopausal mayhem and aging angst, the friendship
dynamic changes.
The needy friend - you guessed it - gets more needy.
She asks for more and more.
And ... the giving friend - limits her availability.
Eventually she exclaims, 'no more.'
Uh-oh!!!
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
This is just one example of the friendship changes that
occur during the double milestone.
UNHOMEWORK
Do you have a friendship similar to the one described?
Which of the two friends most resembles you?
How has the friendship dynamic changed since the onset of the double milestone?
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
Midlife friendships should include ...
HELPFUL HINTS
Midlife Memos is posted weekly.
If you click on 'followers' or 'subscribe,' you will automatically receive each new one.
Or
Just come back to www.midlifememos.com
NOTE
CONTACT INFORMATION
Email: www.drwendykyman@gmail.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/drwendykyman
Twitter: www.twitter.com/@drwendykyman
TO READ PREVIOUS POSTS
To the right, under BLOG ARCHIVES, click '2010' '2011' '2012.'
Keep scrolling all the way to read any, or all, of the earlier Midlife Memos,
especially 'The Birth of Swamp Goddess.' I bet you will relate
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP SUPER POWERS
WELCOME TO MIDLIFE MEMOS
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #89 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP SUPER POWERS
Do you use your double milestone super powers?
They come in handy when we're getting acquainted with a potential
new friend.
Extraordinarily bright and clearly marked signals alert us if this will be
a non-reciprocal (one-sided) friendship.
We are so done with those.
Our sharpened senses alert us to run away
If only these super powers would work their magic on one-sided
long-time friendships.
Our double milestone heightened awareness highlights (shouts out)
the one-sided nature of these old friendships.
But ... we have been friends forever and running away is not so easy.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Do you think forever-friends and potential new friends require different strategies?
Maybe, maybe not.
The only way to find out is to experiment.
UNHOMEWORK
Continue using the 'reciprocal only' policy on potential friends.
Apply this policy to at least one forever-friend.
Record your thoughts, insights, and overall reactions.
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
Two friends have been friends for decades and then ...
HELPFUL HINTS
Midlife Memos is posted weekly.
If you click on 'followers' or 'subscribe,' you will automatically receive each new one.
Or
Just come back to www.midlifememos.com
NOTE
CONTACT INFORMATION
Email: drwendykyman@gmail.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/drwendykyman
Twitter: www.twitter.com/@drwendykyman
TO READ PREVIOUS POSTS
To the right, under BLOG ARCHIVES, click '2010' '2011' '2012.'
Keep scrolling all the way to read any, or all, of the previous Midlife Memos,
especially 'The Birth of Swamp Goddess.' I bet you will relate.
THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MAYHEM AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #89 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
MIDLIFE FRIENDSHIP SUPER POWERS
Do you use your double milestone super powers?
They come in handy when we're getting acquainted with a potential
new friend.
Extraordinarily bright and clearly marked signals alert us if this will be
a non-reciprocal (one-sided) friendship.
We are so done with those.
Our sharpened senses alert us to run away
If only these super powers would work their magic on one-sided
long-time friendships.
Our double milestone heightened awareness highlights (shouts out)
the one-sided nature of these old friendships.
But ... we have been friends forever and running away is not so easy.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Do you think forever-friends and potential new friends require different strategies?
Maybe, maybe not.
The only way to find out is to experiment.
UNHOMEWORK
Continue using the 'reciprocal only' policy on potential friends.
Apply this policy to at least one forever-friend.
Record your thoughts, insights, and overall reactions.
NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
Two friends have been friends for decades and then ...
HELPFUL HINTS
Midlife Memos is posted weekly.
If you click on 'followers' or 'subscribe,' you will automatically receive each new one.
Or
Just come back to www.midlifememos.com
NOTE
CONTACT INFORMATION
Email: drwendykyman@gmail.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/drwendykyman
Twitter: www.twitter.com/@drwendykyman
TO READ PREVIOUS POSTS
To the right, under BLOG ARCHIVES, click '2010' '2011' '2012.'
Keep scrolling all the way to read any, or all, of the previous Midlife Memos,
especially 'The Birth of Swamp Goddess.' I bet you will relate.
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