MIDLIFE FRIENDS TALK - REALITY CHECK PART 2

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THE SWAMP GODDESS® GUIDE TO MENOPAUSAL MISERY AND AGING ANGST
BLOG #40 by Wendy Kyman, Ph.D.
MIDLIFE FRIENDS TALK - REALITY CHECK PART 2


We are putting the finishing touches on our plan for The Big Talk.

Ideally
You begin to express your feelings.
Reality Check
*Your friend interrupts before you finish the first sentence.

Ideally
You ask to continue speaking without interruption.
Reality Check
Your friend:
 *refuses to stay and listen.
* sticks around to hear what you say. Then she walks out
* responds with strong words, shouts, tears and ...

Ideally
You thoroughly and flawlessly state what you want and need to make the friendship work.
Reality Check
*You have to listen (and hear) your friend state what she wants and needs to
make the friendship work.

UNHOMEWORK
Which one of the above reactions is your friend likely to bring to The Big Talk?
Can you predict what she wants and needs from the friendship?
Are you willing to hear what she says?
Are you willing to follow through?

NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC
The Big Talk Aftermath
... we resolved ...

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